I’m yours — the Script

For the nerd in me

Whats happening in the sciences ?

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Free books for Bibliophiles

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If  like myself  you spend most of your free time reading books , you will be grateful for this online resources for free books

1. Project Gutenberg : Lots of public domain books . If you are outside the US , you need to verify if the copyright for the book you are interested in  has expired in your country

2. Ink Mesh – This is actually an ebooks search engine that looks through a potpourri of resources to collect free ebooks

3. Librovox  – Audiobooks in the public domain . If you prefer your books in audio format this is my number one goto resource.

4.Manybooks.net – Another really good source of  free ebooks 

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What I learnt from Steve Jobs

I did not  know Steve Jobs  .

I do not own any apple products .

Why did I feel like I had been slapped across the face when I learnt of his death ? Because I listened to his 2005 Stanford Commencement Speech and I felt ALIVE ! Here is what stuck with me .

1. You are going to die . Make your life count . 

Our University chaplain used to say as long as you are borne , you were  old enough to die.In Jobs words that knowledge should free you from the fallacy of worrying what other people think of you or what you are doing .

2. You know what you were borne to do – stop looking outwards for a purpose

Everyone innately knows what they want to do. What makes them feel alive. Find a way to make it happen.

3. Life is short . Stop doing things that don’t matter

Jobs asked himself daily if what he was doing was what he would have wanted to do at the end of his life and if the answer was no too many days in a row – he knew that he needed to change something

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Rest In Peace Steve Jobs

Pondering

Making Poor People Pray http://bit.ly/olGCiB

What do you do when you dont know what to do
http://bit.ly/pH2Xlh

In Seeking Wisdom, Find Someone Who Has Suffered
http://bit.ly/qLOnZ4

The New No- pill , No risk birth control

Gems on Abstinence from Nona Aguilar’s wonderful book

1. Couples sometimes go through five stages when learning to cope with abstinence : Denial, anger , bargaining , depression & acceptance . Yes the very same steps people take to process loss or grief . However , the husband and wife often go through the stages at differing paces and may occasionally skip one of them.

2. She also cites studies carried out by Dr. Max Levin which indicated that in marriages where the abstinence ( am assuming the average amount of abstinence about 12 days per cycle ) was a burden there were almost always other hidden problems in the marriage . A husband for example who could not stand his wife considered sex a gift to himself for having to put up with her so abstinence was unbearable to him.

3. Abstinence could reveal the level of disequilibrium in the marriage . In some cases abstinence revealed severe disequilibrium : the  wife was left to take care of the charts and  shoulders responsibility for the couple’s fertility and in cases  minor disequilibrium for example a  wife who was not sure about her fertile & non fertile days would make her husband uneasy but not enough to cause any major upheaval.

4. Women felt secure in their relationships when their husbands were willing to abstain . This is because from the studies done women had sex for two reasons : to demonstrate love and to keep their husbands  from walking away . What is interesting about this fact is that women did not want to divulge the second reason .

Initially I wanted to do a complete review of Nona Aguilar’s book  then I dicovered that while the science was essentially the same as that in all other NFP books , I had never found a book with such a comprehensive coverage of abstinence ( all backed by scientific study )

And am not done with the book yet !

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NFP stories making headlines

Five ways I don’t love NFP  http://bit.ly/qvoQ1E

An evolving view of Natural Family Planning http://nyti.ms/p5r1Dj

Bonus story :  A woman struggling to find definition outside pregnancy http://bit.ly/mSpzMs

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Marriage Misconceptions NFP helps eliminate

1. After marriage sex is a free for all : Um – not really . Unfortunately even within Christian circles , the myth that married couples can have sex whenever they like is rampant. This can setup couples for some major NFP  disillusionment . With NFP you consult God , you discuss ( sometimes you talk to a spiritual advisor ) and if there is need you wait out your fertile time .

2. Spacing pregnancies is a woman’s responsibility : I once attended a bridal shower where a counselor urged the bride – to – be  to choose a birth control method wisely because her husband should not be bothered about such things . If there is anything NFP emphasizes its this –  joint responsibility for when you should or should not have children.  ( I understand there are cases where the woman does not mind doing most of the work but that’s a post for another day )

3. Major marriage work  is over once you finish the pre – marital counseling . It is tempting to think that once you checked off those little boxes during counseling there will never be any major marriage battles . ( catholic – check , baptized – check , practicing – check ) . If there is anything NFP does really well it is this : It will highlight the areas a couple struggles with .

4. Abstinence is uncharitable : A lot of the ladies I try to talk to about NFP have one objection to it . How can they say no to their husbands ?  Is that not just plain mean & uncharitable ? But is there any charity in not abstaining for an overwhelmed mother of many little ones and making her worry for weeks before she subjects herself to  yet another pregnancy test ?

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Since I last blogged –

1. My dear mother has been  in and out of hospital . A bad case of malaria combined with hypertension made for a really bad mix . Thankfully the medical staff was able to get it all under control . She is back at home recuperating so we are grateful to God

2. All but my boss and myself are in training at work so that leaves me to combine handling the graduate trainees , do my normal duties and cover for four other people’s emergencies . And we have had 2 emergencies so far …….

3. My copy of the New No- pill , no- risk birth control book by Nora Aguilar arrived – cannot wait to read it . I Love NFP books . Pity my body wont behave as stated in the books . Sigh

4 . Nope no house yet for mother

How was your weekend ?

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St. JoseMaria Escriva : saint of ordinary life

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The feast of St. JoseMaria Escriva ( also called saint of ordinary life ) founder of Opus Dei falls on 26th June which also happens to be Corpus Christi Sunday this year so most parishes will celebrate his feast day before or after Sunday .

A story he once narrated ( cannot recall the name of the documentary )  stands out to me during this time :

“ Once there was a  hitch hiker on the outskirts of one of the rural towns in Europe . He put out his hand to stop a   a truck driver who was passing through. When the truck slowed down he asked the driver if he could take him along on his journey and the driver agreed . Before he got in he asked the driver if the driver was alone . The driver hesistated then replied in the affirmative .

Shortly after they took off the hitch hiker asked the driver why he hesitated .  “Well,’ said the driver , “am a Christian so am never really alone . God is always with me . I hesitated because I did not think you would understand.” “Stop the car !” yelled the hitch hiker , “I need to go back . I am the parish priest and I was running away.”

Ordinary things done well are a path to sanctity . St JoseMaria , pray for us !

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